How Can I Overcome Negative Self-Talk?

How do you treat yourself? Are you critical, dismissive, or even unkind? Many of us can be our own worst enemies. I’ve seen my families belittle themselves and each other over and over again. In disagreements they turn to projecting and creating more hurt, so this only came naturally for me to do the same. I didn’t know what loving the self really was until I decided to explore my wounds. Sure, there was taking care of my body, getting my nails done, and creating good memories. Although those are all great things, this was more about the compassion and kindness that I had toward myself. The absolute care that I had for my own being. So I ask you this, if you were to imagine yourself as a child, would you have treated them as kindly, purely and sincerely that was needed? Have you given yourself the love you absolutely deserve?

When I see myself, I see thousands of generations within me. We are one and in order to have a healed world we need to heal ourselves, it’s a chain reaction. I view myself as significant, worthy, and part of the Devine. I deserve such a beautiful peace. I deserve harmony, and so do you. You deserve to feel like a god(ess ) and to feel like you’re a part of something much bigger. Something unexplainable. I try to imagine the things I do for myself as rituals. I put so much intention and energy into it. When I shower I don’t just shower, I imagine the water being light filtering the emotions and energies built up throughout the day. Before I shower I say thank you to the water and the opportunity I have to be able to care for myself. This is a great way to practice gratitude. I then say, “any energy taken from me without myself consent, I bring back to me through clean and clear” I repeat that until I feel rejuvenated and refreshed. Sometimes, during a hard day it’s said more than usual. For me, this is a great opportunity to acknowledge how I’m feeling that day. To claim back my power and reignite what’s always been inside of me.

Creating magick in your daily life involves infusing intention and purpose into even the simplest of actions, turning them into magickal rituals. Start with when you wake up. Focus on what you want throughout the day and what you would like to manifest. As you go about your day, have mindfulness with each task. Something as simple as making tea or coffee, imagine the energy and love being poured into the cup. Find the value in being able to connect with all that’s around you. When you brush your teeth or wash your hands use this time to reinforce positive thoughts. Maybe you’re cleaning the house and feel a little low, you could light a candle and imagine this boosting your spirits. Open a window to cleanse the air and space around you. By treating everyday activities as ritualistic acts filled with gratitude and compassion, we open up opportunities for personal growth and fulfillment.

Inner conflict will significantly influence the situations and environments we are in. When we are torn between conflicting desires, feelings and the relationship between self it will affect our choices and actions. Unresolved inner conflict will affect stress, anxiety, our worthiness and relationships with others. When we can’t love ourselves truly we are more likely to stay in toxic relationships, put others before ourselves and tolerate things we might be uncomfortable with. If you feel you resonate with any of this, please be warmhearted. Do not bash yourself for doing so. We make mistakes and sometimes they are blindly. So let’s start here, say this to yourself, “ I am trying my best. I will have more empathy with myself. It won’t come easy, it will take patience but I am ready for change.” The words we chose are not mere sound, they are spells that shape our reality. Studies show that positive self talk can significantly impact our mental health, and our perception on life. I’ve witnessed firsthand the impact compassionately talking to myself has had. So when you have a moment where your self talk is hurtful, go back and change what you’ve said. Make a new pattern of communicating gentler to yourself.

Limiting beliefs formed through negative self talk will hold you back. There are many skills you can use to build a healthy relationship with your own self. When you’re faced with challenges or feeling disappointment take a moment and give yourself some grace and empathy. How would you respond if it were reversed and this was a friend? You probably would be more quick to help them emotionally, so give the same respect to yourself.

Join me in exploring how we can harness the magic of words to foster self growth and positivity. Please use the free guided worksheets I’ve made to learn new techniques on healing the most important relationship you’ll have. The one with yourself. Be your own best friend.